8 years in the US. Some reflections.

This weeks marks the 8th anniversary of moving to the US.

It certainly makes you reflect on how fast time flies. I remember living and working in Belgium like it was 3 years ago. How could it be 8 years already?

Rather than writing a long story, I figured I could do a quick Question & Answer round of frequently asked questions:

Happy? Yes.

Any regrets? No. Not really. You hate leaving a void with your closest family and friends, especially when some are going through a hard time. But as a whole, do I regret moving to the US? No.

How are things with you and Carolyn? Things are good. We are very happy together and are both doing well. We are in a good place and good situation.

Is living there how you thought it would be? Yes & No. Yes, because I knew it a little bit from traveling here. At the same time, we are living quite differently than we had originally planned. We have not settled down yet. We have been pretty mobile and plan to stay that way. We live in two places, so there are some practical long distance issues, as you can imagine. Business is different than we had planned, but we are doing good. We will see what the future brings.

Are you a US citizen now? No. Not yet.

Do you miss Belgium? Sometimes. I haven’t been there in several years, so one automatically misses friends & family. From time to time we catch a travel show on TV highlighting Belgium or places we have visited. It brings back memories and makes you want to pop in to say hi and refresh your memory of what it is really like to be there.

When are you coming to Belgium/Europe again? Not in the near future. Have you seen the Euro/Dollar rate lately? 1.55 USD for 1 EURO is a 50% tax for Americans to come to the EU. I can’t imagine paying 50% extra for fuel, hotels, … Maybe you guys can swing this way? It is a bargain at 50% off.

What’s the biggest thing that is different about you now? Doing construction work. I thought I would be doing purely computer stuff and clerical work. I didn’t think I was cut out for construction work, but it turns out I am. And, I owe it all to a little encouragement from Carolyn with the first few little projects. We were unhappy with the cost and results of a couple things we hired done at our first home and I figured I could do a lot better for less cost. Apply some brain power. Analyze it, come up with a strategy and go for it.

And the second thing? Smarter & braver. I can for instance jump in the car and drive anywhere in the US with minimal notice & minor to no preparations. Initially the US it is kind of intimidating because being from Flanders you think small. Drive an hour each way and you are in different country. Years ago I couldn’t understand why Americans would travel across Europe in 7 days. But travel and distance are different here. A few hours driving is nothing. Things are on an entirely different scale. By the way: Americans don’t get much time off from work, so they pack as much as they can in a short vacation.

What haven’t you done enough? Travel & sightseeing. Windsurfing.

Anything that surprised you? Hearing I have a talent for skiing and water skiing.

Are there some things you wish would be different in the US?

Health insurance. The cost goes through the roof. Large sections of the population can’t afford insurance. Other sections of the population have insurance but are denied treatment. Any reason is good enough to deny coverage. Way too much time and money is wasted on paperwork, applications, pre-approval processes, reviewers, … and not enough care given. The administration just drives up the cost of providing care and insurance itself. A never ending spiral.

Commercials on TV. Most channels are like Eurosport. Commercial break every five minutes. It just makes we want to turn the TV off.

Political campaigning. The amount of money spent on campaigning and the amount of coverage in every news cast on every channel, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year is just … insane. It just doesn’t stop. What is next? Strapping a camera to the candidate’s head and following every word & move 24/7?

Driving. In a way driving in the US is relaxed because of the lower speed limits, but quite a lot of people have totally unsafe driving habits: no safe driving distance, aggressive driving, not stopping at stop signs, running red lights, slow traffic staying in the left lane,text-ing behind the wheel, etc. And all the police seem to focus on is speeding. Maybe if everybody would drive safer, we could get some higher speed limits on the interstate that are more in keeping with our rushed lives and save a little time on long distance hauls. It doesn’t have to be 65-70mph on many quiet stretches of interstate, but it is not likely to change.

What car do you drive? A Chrysler minivan. No convertible yet. Right now I’m more thinking about a pick-up truck with a snow plow.

Are you still into computers & electronics? Of course! I have scaled back some, but yeah, I’m still quite ahead of the curve.

Any cool hardware recently? I still think the Nokia N800/810 & OQO o2 are marvelous pieces of technology.

iPhone? Not enough features yet and tied to AT&T, so no.

Mac or PC? Both. I indeed switch to Apple in 2002, but Apple isn’t all it could be and should be so, I found my way back to using pc systems because Apple’s product line is too limited in some respects and under featured.

Linux? Some. Not enough time to delve into it. I have enough to catch up with as it is.

When will the site be updated? Soon, I hope. I am waiting on an iBlog export function to centralize things without having to edit every single entry and have been distracted with a few other projects.


  1. Well I learned a few things just now icerabbit. Is it normal to be in the US 8 years without being a citizen? I didn’t think they’d allow non-citizens to stay long.

    By virtue of marriage to an EU citizen I didn’t have to get British citizenship, but I applied for it 4 years ago (after living here 10 years) so I could choose which queue to join in airport arrivals halls (EU or “Others”). Plus the Brits can’t decide if they’re part of Europe or not, so you never know when my wife might have to rely on my citizenship to stay here! We met an immigration lawyer on holiday once who advised “Always get as many rights as you can”.

  2. As a resident you are allowed to stay as long as you like, unless they were to kick you out for bad behavior. I am officially a “resident alien” a.k.a. green card holder (which is actually white) and thus I am allowed to stay.

    After three years I could have applied for citizenship (generally it is 5 years, I believe). I have just not been in a hurry to apply. Immigration suspected I only married to become a US citizen – and I’m sure that goes on quite a bit – but this way I am proving them wrong and will hopefully lift that ‘guilty until proven otherwise cloud’ they put above my head.

  3. Sitting in my little studio in Yorkshire, UK, I find it interesting that in these emails wanging around and discussions we’ve had re. iBlog, I never stopped to think that because they emanated from the US, you were originally not.

    I often marvel at the passage of time and what it brings, particularly when pondering on a bit of code and looking-up to see a steam engine pass by the far edge of the field behind my house!

    When I was wandering down-under for a while, a very obliging (and attractive I may add) young lady offered to marry me so that I could stay in Australia (I was visiting a friend who had dual British/Australian nationality and opted for Oz) – one wonders what life may have been like if a moment’s decision were different – sliding doors.

  4. Since my existing (and desperately in need of updating) blog doesn’t give any clues, it has been a bit of a secret that I am a Fleming in the US. In real life / offline, I blend in so well here, that nobody suspects I’m from across the pond.

    It is certainly fascinating to hear / read some people’s life stories and learn that their life turned around based on one meeting, one event … or a series of coincidences.

    Certainly if you have made a big decision in life, it is normal to wonder from time to time “what if …”. Where would I be in Belgium if I had not met Carolyn? Online. Our relationship started with the fact that we both had computers and were online one day and met in a chat room in February of ’97. I had been on the internet a few times and had just upgraded my trial account to a full one. Where you paid per connected minute.

    Had certain facts of jobs, computers, internet access and interests not lined up, and had we both not visited accidentally visited this particular chat room … I certainly wouldn’t be here. Unless I met somebody else and we fell in love etc. Most likely I would still be at my previous job, maybe moved to a different town or province, but I really doubt I would live outside of Flanders. I might be blogging but it is far less likely I would have switched to a Mac in 2001, thus not: discovered iBlog via .mac, worked on iBlog, then met Bruce, then met you.

    Life is an interesting chain of events and decisions.

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